ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?
During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?”
In all seriousness, she answered “How did you know?”
“Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind.” replied the author.
Here’s the answer:
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.
People in love sometimes say, I was swept of my feet. Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this)
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: the universe determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go!
why doesn’t this have more notes
Let’s talk about Johanna Mason for a minute. The scene after Finnick and Katniss endure the torturous jabberjays is powerful for many reasons but what stuck out to me the most (other than Jennifer Lawrence’s incredible acting) was Johanna. She literally screams at President Snow and tells him he can’t put everyone in an arena to psychologically torture and kill them. She’s completely right. He can’t continue to be a coward and put innocent humans in an arena as sacrifices for entertainment value. Then right after she says that, she has this air of complete calm and says, “What? He can’t hurt me. There’s no one left that I love.” That is gut wrenching. The fact that Capitol has taken everything and everyone from this girl, but she keeps on going is something that is truly inspiring. She doesn’t give up even though many would in her situation. She is courageous through it all. She’s not afraid to stand up to the Capitol and show that even though what they’ve done has scarred her, she is a fighter and they don’t control her. That is why Johanna Mason is amazing. We need more characters like her.
I would also like to say thank you to Jena Malone because she exudes every emotional layer of Johanna perfectly and I don’t know of any actress who could’ve done a better job.
Exactly. Obviously his past and upbringing still haunts him so he’s afraid to care and doesn’t know how to either. And yes: with Caroline he’s Niklaus, his true self. That’s why I love them so much, she brings out the real him and the other way around as well. They bring out the best in each other.
and we all feel a simultaneous punch to the gut.
but!!!!! this is so important!!!! this is such a potent metaphor for how much bad things are glamorized in our society like eating disorders or self harm and so you have these little kids seeing it made dramatic and beautiful and i just!!!! catching fire u did so good u did so fucking good